Bully Buster System


Bully Buster System™

By Dr. Terrence Webster-Doyle

A BREAKTHROUGH SYSTEM TO HELP STUDENTS CONQUER ADVERSITY THROUGH CONFIDENCE

Includes:

• Posters
• Ad slick
• Two books
• Class drills
• Instructor Manuals
• Student worksheets
• Toll free support number

$149 for MAIA member (reg. $199)

Intimidation comes in many forms. Criticism, discrimination and self-doubt are inherent factors of the society in which we live and they cripple our ability to reach our full potential. Teaching students how to cope with, avoid and defeat these negative influences peacefully is the goal of the "Bully Buster System™". This system includes the lesson plans, teaching drills, worksheets and marketing ideas necessary to effectively educate your students. This system can be implemented in any Martial Arts school. It will add value to your current program and increase retention through new and exciting class drill and seminars. Your school will also experience increased profitability by appealing to new students. The Bully Buster System™" teaches the skills necessary to manage conflict without violence while stressing the importance of Martial Arts.

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THE HIGHEST GOAL OF THE MARTIAL ARTIST

ASK YOURSELF:

• What is my purpose in teaching the martial arts to young students?

• Is it to teach them only to defend themselves?

• Is it to help them learn how not to be victimized by the different kinds of bullies in the world today and to develop their confidence?

The highest goal of the martial artist is to STOP a fight. That means, stop a fight BEFORE it starts. More and more children are being victimized by bullies today, and we want to help these children learn how to defeat these bullies—but defeat them WITHOUT FIGHTING.

You can do this! Any instructor can do this. It isn't difficult. Like anything new, it takes a little time to learn HOW to do it. That's all.

What you've already learned are martial arts physical skills. You know how to teach your students how to defend themselves—all the skills they need to participate in the art of physical self-defense.

Your students strengthen their bodies and learn how to control their body movements with style and grace. They develop a sense of self-confidence in their ability to protect themselves if they are ever aggressively or violently attacked. If they must respond to any physical confrontation, they learn the proper and humane use of physical restraint.

The Art of Mental Self-Defense

Violence on television, in films, newspapers ad magazines is often portrayed as an heroic cultural ideal. Due to this mistaken view of the martial arts by the media, a great number of young people still think that martial artists train to be lethal fighting machines who learn to believe in an "eye for an eye" approach to resolving conflict.

When we teach our students only physical self-defense skills, we are teaching them to deal with conflict AFTER it becomes a physical confrontation.

The highest goal of the martial artist
is to stop conflict BEFORE it starts—
to AVOID and therefore PREVENT it.

Physical defense skills are used as a final resort—we use them, if necessary. We use them when we have no other way. Knowing these physical defense skills gives us the confidence to NOT fight.

A balanced instruction of the martial arts includes Mental Self-Defense™ skills as well as physical ones. We combine the power of muscle and i intelligence for a balance between brute force and reason. Learning Mental Self-Defense™ and using the strongest "muscle" in their bodies, the most powerful weapon in their possession—their brains—young people develop the skills to avoid conflict by employing a collection of nonviolent alternatives.

Instead of resorting to brute force, and possibly getting physically hurt (by fighting) or emotionally hurt (running away or not "winning")—your students combine brain and brawn for the most powerful line of self-defense in existence.

What's In It for You

1. Read the headlines:

• The Washington Post
School Reeling After Taunted Boy Strikes Back: DeKalb, MO.
(AP)—Counselors were called in to help students cope today with the memories of a 12-year-old boy, often taunted as "Chubby," pulling a gun from a bag, fatally wounding a classmate and killing himself.

• The New York Times
The Bully: New Research Depicts a Paranoid, Lifelong Loser

• News Chronicle, Thousand Oaks, CA.
What Can We Do to Stop Bullies? Harvard hosts national experts in study of schoolyard terrorists.

2. Learning the "Defeat the Bully the Smart Way"
Bully Buster Kids Program

• Helps young people cope with an urgent social issue.

• Establishes martial arts Instructors as a "team member" (along with parents, counselors, educators, and school administrators) in helping young people resolve conflict nonviolently.

• Adds credibility to any martial arts program and reassures parents with its emphasis on nonviolent resolution of conflict.

• Helps martial arts schools extend the scope of their audience.

• Enhances the public image of martial arts training.

• Increases student enrollment.


THREE LINES OF SELF-DEFENSE

Ask Yourself:

• Do you think that if a child is taught only physical self-defense that he or she has the skills to avoid and resolve conflict before it becomes a physical confrontation?

• Do you think that young people have the sophisticated skills and presence of mind to understand and avoid conflict and the ability to use clever verbal skills as a means of self-protection to resolve conflict peacefully if they practice defending themselves only physically?

• Do you think that physical self-defense is only a part of the martial art big picture?

The A.R.M. Approach™—FOR OLDER STUDENTS, Ages 9-12

One way you can give your students complete physical, mental and spiritual preparation is by teaching them three lines of self-defense. Once they understand all three, they then understand that they must use their minds—the most powerful weapon they have—to determine which line of defense they will need to call upon in their particular situation.

In order to teach your students these lines of defense, you must understand them yourself. They aren't difficult at all! In a nutshell, when we recognize that a fight is about to begin—we can try to avoid that fight, try to resolve that fight if we can't avoid it, or we can try to manage that fight if we can't avoid or resolve it!

Here's the breakdown:

AVOID—We avoid conflict by understanding and being aware of it. When we recognize that a fight, or conflict, is brewing, and we can SEE it about to start—we can attempt to do something to prevent it.

RESOLVE—When a conflict has already begun—we have not been able to prevent or AVOID it—we can attempt to stop it in its tracks by using nonviolent verbal skills.

MANAGE—When we cannot AVOID a conflict, and we cannot do anything to RESOLVE it, this is the time we may call upon our physical skills to humanely stop it.

When we A.R.M.™ our students with these choices, they have the full set of self-defense skills, both mental and physical, to help them cope with conflict intelligently and effectively. We want our children to be safe, and the intelligent way to ensure that safety is to teach them to protect themselves in ways that are nonthreatening and nonphysical—leaving physical means as a last resort.

The tournament and sports aspect of the martial arts is fun!
Still, we also need to see—and to let our students know—
that these arts were developed primarily
to educate and protect people from harm,
and to find peaceful ways to relate to one another.

The "3P" Approach™—FOR YOUNG STUDENTS, Ages 4-8

Another way to teach your students this big picture is to use the "3Ps."

PREVENT—We prevent a fight from happening by avoiding it. We see it coming and we find a way to stop it before it starts.

PREPARE—We use our brain instead of our fists to resolve this fight. We call upon our verbal skills (which we will learn).

PROTECT—We protect ourselves by learning self-defense physical skills. Knowing them gives us the confidence to not use them—not use them unless we must, as a last resort.

Learning these arts in this manner can help us cope
not only with the schoolyard bully, but also with bullying that occurs
domestically, socially and internationally.


TWELVE WAYS TO WALK AWAY WITH CONFIDENCE

Ask yourself:

• Do I think that the development of physical self-defense skills is only one part of learning the martial arts?

• Does it make sense that the first two lines of self-defense are necessary to avoid/prevent a fight, or to resolve a fight that's already started?

Twelve Bully Buster™ Basic Tools

As is true when learning anything new, using these three lines of self-defense takes practice. We need tools to help us understand how to use them effectively. To use these tools, we need to understand:

• Power is not based on physical strength or the ability to dominate other people.

• Power is not the ability to win or know more than other people.

• A powerful person in one who knows defeat.

• A powerful person is one who wants to learn.

• A powerful person is one who can understand him- or herself and has the desire to understand others.

TWELVE BULLY BUSTER™ WAYS TO WALK AWAY WITH CONFIDENCE

1. Make friends
Treat the bully as a friend instead of an enemy

2. Use humor
You can turn a threatening situation into a funny one

3. Walk away
Don't get into it—just walk away

4. Use cleverness
Use your creative imagination to resolve conflict

5. Agree with the bully
Let insults go—without fighting back

6. Refuse to fight
The winner of a fight is the one who avoids it

7. Stand up to a bully
Stick up for yourself. Just say NO! to bullying

8. Scream / Yell
A powerful shout can end conflict before it starts

9. Ignore the threat
Be like bamboo—bend in the wind

10. Use authority
Call a proper authority to help you "defeat the bully"

11. Reason with bully
Use the most powerful tool you have—your brain

12. Martial Arts stance
Be a victor—not a victim!


TO ORDER:

Bully Buster System

By Dr. Terrence Webster-Doyle

A BREAKTHROUGH SYSTEM TO HELP STUDENTS CONQUER ADVERSITY THROUGH CONFIDENCE

Includes:

• Posters
• Ad slick
• Two books
• Class drills
• Instructor Manuals
• Student worksheets
• Toll free support number

• $149 for MAIA member (reg. $199)

Order Today 1-866-626-6226